There are certain things healthy people do every single day without a second thought.
They wake up.
They take a shower.
They run errands.
They make plans.
They attend birthday parties, weddings, concerts, and family gatherings.
They go outside on a hot summer day.
They breathe.
For most people, these are ordinary parts of life.
For those of us living with chronic illness, they can become obstacles, calculations, negotiations, or sometimes impossible tasks.
Living with Crohn’s Disease and Myasthenia Gravis has taught me that many of the things healthy people take for granted are actually privileges—privileges that disappear the moment your body decides not to cooperate.
🚿 The Shower Problem
Let’s start with something simple.
Taking a shower.
Most people jump in the shower without ever considering whether they’ll have enough strength to wash their hair, stand for ten minutes, or dry off afterward.
I do.
There are days when taking a shower feels like an Olympic event.
Will the heat make my muscles weaker?
Will standing that long leave me exhausted?
Do I have enough energy to wash and style my hair afterward?
Healthy people shower and continue with their day.
Sometimes I shower and need a nap.
And honestly, there are days when a shower is my biggest accomplishment.
☀️ Summer Isn’t Fun for Everyone
People love summer.
I used to love summer too.
Now, summer and I have a complicated relationship.
Many people with Myasthenia Gravis struggle with heat intolerance, and I am no exception.
Heat doesn’t just make me uncomfortable.
It can take away my ability to breathe, speak, exercise, and participate in the world around me.
A day at the beach, an outdoor festival, a family barbecue, or even a trip to the grocery store can require military-level planning.
Where’s the shade?
How far do I have to walk?
Will there be seating?
How hot will it be?
How quickly can I get somewhere cool if my symptoms worsen?
Healthy people often leave the house with their keys and wallet.
I leave the house with medications, water, cooling devices, backup plans, and a prayer.
🚽 When Crohn’s Disease Joins the Party
Crohn’s Disease has a way of making even the simplest outing an adventure.
And not the fun Disney kind.
Before leaving home, I need to know where the bathrooms are.
Always.
Road trips?
Bathroom strategy.
Travel?
Bathroom strategy.
Concerts?
Bathroom strategy.
Life with Crohn’s means constantly assessing risk.
Can I eat before leaving?
How long will I be gone?
Will there be food I can tolerate?
What happens if symptoms suddenly flare?
Healthy people simply go.
People with Crohn’s often prepare for every possible scenario.
Because experience has taught us that our digestive system likes surprises, and unfortunately, we are never amused.
🎉 The Events I Miss
One of the hardest parts of chronic illness isn’t always the physical symptoms.
It’s the life you miss while trying to survive.
I’ve missed gatherings.
I’ve canceled plans.
I’ve said, “Maybe next time,” more times than I can count.
Not because I didn’t want to go.
Not because I don’t care.
But because sometimes my body makes decisions without consulting me.
People often assume that if they can’t see our illness, we must be feeling fine.
The truth is many of us spend an incredible amount of energy simply trying to appear normal.
Sometimes attending an event means sacrificing several days of recovery afterward.
Sometimes it means deciding whether a few hours of enjoyment are worth a week-long flare.
Those are choices healthy people rarely have to make.
💔 Invisible Doesn’t Mean Easy
One of the greatest misconceptions about invisible illnesses is that because you look healthy, you must feel healthy.
I wish that were true.
People see me dressed for work, smiling in photographs, or showing up for family events.
What they don’t see is the exhaustion, the pain, the breathing struggles, the countless medical appointments, the treatments, the sleepless nights, and the mental calculations happening behind the scenes.
Chronic illness is often a full-time job that nobody sees.
🙋🏽♀️ We Aren’t Antisocial
People sometimes think I stay home because I’m antisocial.
Trust me.
If I cancel plans, it’s rarely because I don’t want to be there.
It’s because my body has other plans.
Living with chronic illness means grieving the spontaneity healthy people enjoy.
There is no “Let’s just go.”
Everything requires thought.
Everything requires energy.
Everything comes with consequences.
And some days, simply making it through the day is enough.
💜 Final Thoughts
Living with Crohn’s Disease and Myasthenia Gravis has taught me to celebrate things many people never think twice about.
A good night’s sleep.
A shower without exhaustion.
A family outing.
A walk.
A meal without pain.
A day where breathing comes easily.
These moments may seem small to others, but to me, they are victories.
So if you are healthy, I encourage you to appreciate the things your body allows you to do.
And if you live with chronic illness, know this:
Your struggles are real.
Your grief is valid.
Your victories matter.
And you are not alone.
Because sometimes surviving the day is an accomplishment worthy of celebration.
Thank you for being part of this journey. Whether you are living with chronic illness yourself, caring for someone who is, or simply here to learn, thank you for reading and walking alongside me.
Living with one autoimmune disease is challenging. Living with two requires resilience. Welcome to The Dual Diagnosis Diaries, where I share the realities of navigating life with Crohn’s Disease and Myasthenia Gravis—one day, one treatment, and one lesson at a time.
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